Christianity for Modern Pagans, ch. 5: Vanity.

Pascal: “Anyone who wants to know the full extent of man’s vanity has only to consider the causes and effects of love. The cause is a je ne sais quoi. And it’s effects are terrifying. This indefinable something, so trifling that we cannot recognize it, upsets the whole earth, princes, armies, the entire world. Cleopatra’s nose: if it had been shorter the whole face of the earth would have been different.”

Kreeft: “No psychologist, to this day, has ever explained why Romeo falls in love with Juliet. Yet this is literally a matter of life or death. Let us pray that no one ever will explain it.”

There were other girls in the ballroom when Romeo first saw Juliet. Why her? Why are you married to your husband or wife instead of some other woman or man? Chance? Pheromones? Predestination? Does that online dating service whose name I can’t remember really have x number of “compatibility factors” infallibly figured and matched to find you the perfect mate? I doubt it.

First, there’s an attraction, physical and spiritual/mental. Ideas mesh; bodies feel. Then there must be a commitment, an act of the will. A woman says, “I love this man and forsaking all others, I will cling only to him.” Love is somethng you feel, but to become lasting, it becomes something you do, acting in love whether you feel it or not.

However, Pascal is right. None of the preceding paragraph explains completely why I chose Engineer Husband. Perhaps I chose him because he was attracted to me, but that answer begs the question: why was he attracted to me? And what if he had not been?

For want of a nail, the shoe was lost,
For want of the shoe, the horse was lost,
For want of the horse, the rider was lost,
For want of the rider, the battle was lost,
For want of the battle, the kingdom was lost,
And all for the want of a nail!

Read more about the source of this nursery rhyme on vanity and chance (or lack of foresight according to Ben Franklin) here.

Pascal’s point is that mighty events turn on small and seemingly inconsequential choices. Kreeft concludes, “If there is no God, we easily become determinists.” Or anarchic nihilists.